Hello there Desi Brides!
Happy Wednesday and I hope you are having a fabulous week!
Let’s dive straight in. OK so today’s post is all about 5 reasons why you need a coordinator. You might be thinking oh yeah I have been thinking about one of those or you might be thinking wedding coordinator? Naaaah my venue/sister/cousin/chachi will do that for me. So I’m going to be super honest and up front in this post so be ready!
The reason why I have started to offer wedding planning and especially coordination is not because this is some random crazy idea I dreamt overnight and then I thought “Hey I am going to do wedding planning and coordination for Desi Brides” its actually because I have spent months and months tirelessly doing research with some of you Desi Brides and researching the Asian wedding market, and to me there has always been a pattern with all the feedback emails I receive after you lovely Desi Brides have had their big day. ONE thing that has always come out is wedding coordination and planning. Desi Brides have massively regretted not having a coordinator/planner who runs their day for them and manages everything A – Z so that their family isn’t stressed.
Here are some of the feedback I have got from Desi Brides (After I told them about my coordination packages a few weeks before their wedding).
“Hi Sharn, How are you? Im doing well thanks…
OMG totally I would have had a coordinator. In hindsight I would have been all over the idea of a wedding co-ordinator, I would have saved:
My illness (gastroenteritis)
Time to actually enjoy and spend final time with friends/family and more time to iron out the finer details for my wedding (colours, sweets, personalised goods)
Time to pack (I have come here with half the stuff I wanted)
More time to plan the next steps in my life
I would have had more time to focus on beauty/skincare/spa trips! in the run up to the wedding”.
That was Zeny Butt,
Also there was Raman –
“I think coordination would have been a huge help as I look back and I wish I had done the smaller things (like give out ramals for the Gurdwara, cleaner entrance to temple and reception, etc).
I guess the main thing for me would have been having someone else to relieve the stress/pressure of getting everything right. No one else will notice but as the bride you will always remember the little things that weren’t done or that weren’t quite right. It would have been great to have a coordinator ensuring everyone and everything was taken care of!”.
Like I mentioned it above, I’ve heard it about a million times already “Oh but the venue coordinator/my family/my friends will handle everything so I don’t need a coordinator/planner”
What most lovely Desi Brides don’t get is (and it’s not their fault at all because they haven’t been through this process so how the heck are they suppose to know) that the venue coordinator is just there for, well the venue. Don’t get me wrong I have nothing against venue coordinators but they can only help to a certain degree and only venue related bits. But what about the rest of your dream day? The religious ceremony? You entrance into the religious ceremony? The Milni’s, Getting you on time to the reception, putting out favours, guest book, champagne and making sure you get your photos done (gosh have you paid the photographer good money for that) assisting you in the changing room and managing your grand entrance, blah blah blah the list truly does go on and on.
I saw my venue coordinator once at my wedding. Yep that’s right – once. Don’t get me wrong she was lovely but literally I saw her when the shower wasn’t working in our changing rooms and that was is it.
My job as your coordinator is to be at your side throughout the whole day and being the first to arrive at your wedding and the last to leave.
And I can hand on heart say I even needed a coordinator for my engagement last year, all the enquiries were getting directed at me from the venue and I could have some with some support 🙁
So here it is, 5 reasons why you need a coordinator…
1. Because you want a STRESS FREE wedding. I will sit down with you and the groom, close family contacts and all suppliers one month prior to the wedding to go through the logistics of your dream day and identify any issues and nip them in the bud or come up with a solution. On the wedding day itself I work extra hard to make sure everything is in place that has been agreed previously. Whether that’s the design of your head table, the cleanliness of your entrance (yes I know it has happened) etc etc. And If a problem does come up its my job to have a plan A, B and C ready! I do a lot of things in the background, shielding the family, bride and groom from unnecessary stress and worry, because that’s what I’m there for. My job as a coordinator is to make your magical vision come to life which you have agreed with your different suppliers, and to ensure your happiness minus the stress!
2. You want organisation. Ever heard the phrase “Indian timing”? I think we all have! Us Asians aren’t very organised when it comes to the best of times, so you can just forget it when it comes to an Asian wedding. A late baraat arrival and a late entrance, these are all common ingredients of an Asian wedding. But by having me as a coordinator you will get some much needed organisation! I’ll create the all important timing plan weeks before your wedding and not only will I distribute it to all your suppliers I will make sure we follow it on the big day. I know exactly when starters should be served, how long the cake cutting will take so we can factor it all in to your timing plan and if there are any delays on the day, I’ll let you know where we can make up time. I actually attended a wedding a few weeks ago and I had to say it but the organisation was bad. Everyone was having their mains (in the middle of them actually) and then there was a DJ announcement for the coaches, and that they were leaving in 10 minutes! Everyone rushed their food and ran to the coaches. This is just one example of poor coordination and by having a set of objective wedding coordination eyes on all your wedding elements can save you stress, hassle and time. It would be such a shame to have things not go right on the big day when you have invested all that money, time and effort. You need someone on the day to pull it together and that’s a fact!
3. You handover all your suppliers to me weeks before the wedding. This is probably the BEST bit. You see, the weeks up to your wedding are hectic and mental to say the very least, no matter how organised you are. Chances are you will probably have international guests over, close family and friends over, your pre wed events like your Jago night or Sangeet and the nature of wedding planning is that some things will need to be left till the last minute. Like decorating your house with lovely floral decor or setting up the venue for your pre wed events. One stress you really don’t want is suppliers ringing you the week of your wedding to confirm the “last minute details” and oh they will. For the majority of suppliers they only work 2 weeks in advance, and they WILL be calling you to check last minute timings and addresses. This is where a coordinator can literally be so handy. As your coordinator I will take charge and take over the weeks before your wedding, so that all wedding supplier enquiries are directed to me! This will be a massive weight off your shoulders and even if you have last minute deposits to pay I can do that on your behalf as we would have worked this out in the final supplier meeting. Dreaaaaamy I know, and seriously take it from me – from a very recent bride this will be a massive weight off your shoulders and this will make the lead up to your wedding more enjoyable so you can spend those last precious weeks with your loved ones instead of worrying about phone calls or replying back to emails!
4. You want things things to be, well the way you want them to be. Your family, friends or bridesmaids will not be able to get to the venue or ceremony prior to when things start off on the big day. They will either be too busy getting ready or spending time with you. And why should they? They are your loved ones and they should be able to enjoy your big day with you. I will know all the nitty gritty details of your dream day – such as the first dance song, order of speeches, who your milni’s are with and what your head table should look like. I’ll make sure on the day everything is set up as agreed with you to match your vision you have of your big day, timings and logistics really is everything so we’ll make sure things are just the way you want them to be, no drama no stress.
5 – The wedding cake knife won’t go missing – ha! OK so this is a joke one of course but its so true. There will be so many wedding things I’ll set up and do for on the big day and this is just one of them, so rest assured your cake knife WILL be there when you make your spectacular entrance and you are ready for that magical cake cutting.
But seriously though Desi Brides, I would hate for you to regret it after your wedding and say to me what the other Desi Brides are saying now. If budget is a issue then you need to be thinking carefully about what’s important on your wedding day and how important, logistics, timings and organisation is. A coordinator should be one of your most important investments in your wedding day.
You Mum, Dad and definitely your fiancé may say you don’t need one. That’s not because they are being awkward but it’s because they don’t understand the complexities involved in planning a Asian wedding. Take it from me and the Desi Brides above, and book a coordinator. I would totally love to work with you on your dream day (you know that)
The special launch offer is still on till the 30th September so please email me on firstname.lastname@example.org or call me on 07939082844 for packages and prices.
Until next time!