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After considering your Chacha, Kaka and bla bla bla’s availability and finally setting that all important date you may be thinking errrrrrr what do I do next?
Well luckily for you I’m here! I went through exactly the same process a few months ago when I set the date for my wedding and I really didn’t know where to start! I had no siblings that had been married either and I’m a bit of a perfectionist so didn’t trust anyone else with my wedding plans either #BridezillaTraits
Sooooooo If there is only one piece of advice I can give you is that that do not just set your date and then do zilch for the next 6 months. Get planning pronto and if you want to be that super organised bride who doesn’t want to be stressing the months and weeks and even days before the wedding. I suggest you get cracka lacking because I hate to say it but you will be slightly stressed the days and weeks before your wedding because there are some things you simply cant do until then. Sorry brides but being realistic here 🙂 But don’t panic, I’ve given you some tips below to get you started (you can thank me later)
1. Secure the date with the gurdwara, mandir or registry office. Once you have set a date with your partner and respective families make sure you call the religious venue and confirm everything with them. A lot of religious venues don’t take a deposit but I would recommend that you put down a deposit for your own piece of mind. Also double confirm the booking with them as they can be extremely laid back but you want to make sure that everything is all booked up.
2. Start start start looking at venues. This is my favourite bit. What you want to do is make a short list of venues that you really like. Have a look at venue websites and then see what their max capacity is and make sure you ring round lots of venues so you aren’t wasting your precious time with venues that cant cater for your needs. Also make sure that they availability for your wedding date. More tips on finding that fabulous venue here http://desibridedreams.co.uk/ultimate-guide-choosing-dreamy-venue-5-questions-need-asking/
3. Set a budget. Yes I know your probably thinking *snore*, and why do I even need to think about a budget, of course I can afford my dream wedding. Yes of course you probably can but you NEED to set a budget. Asian weddings these days can cost anything from £20k to £200k and whilst you can most probably afford it you need to set a budget so you know what you are working towards. Trust me all the suppliers will be asking the same question too so its good to have it all worked out beforehand.
4. Start writing a guest list. Guestamating isn’t ENOUGH. For example me and my mum thought we would have around 400 people from our side but when we actually sat down and wrote out the guest list this figure was looking more like 300 (sigh of relief) therefore you won’t know until you, moma and papa sit down and do the number crunching. Also ask the groom’s family roughly how many guest they think they will have from their side and then this will make your venue hunting process much easier as you know the number of guests you need to accommodate for.
5. Think about your pre-wedding events, are you having a sanji or a jago party? If so where will this be and when? Will it be a night before your wedding? Are you having an engagement party? These are all the things we also need to think about because with us lovely Asians the wedding isn’t just a day its the whole weekend Oh yessssss, and I know we wouldn’t have it any other way. I’ll talk more about having amazing pre wedding events in another post but for now decide on all your pre-wedding events and start thinking about the venues for these as well.
6. Book the make up artist. DBD brides make sure you take note of this one. If you a fussy bride like me and want the world and it’s mother then I know you will want the best make-up artist and to have the likes of Ambreen and Dil Mathuru you need to be super organised to get these booked up! I found this part the most stressful process of the wedding planning and it isn’t unheard of that the best make-up artists are being booked 2 years in advance. So get moving with this process as soon as you can. More on finding the perfect make up artist here –http://desibridedreams.co.uk/hell-decide-makeup-artist/
I hope the above tips were helpful!
Until next time….