If you’re reading this right now, chances are you most probably got engaged recently, so a big congratulations from me here at Desi Bride Dreams! Whoop Whoop! I’m very excited for you! This is where the fun begins.
So you’ve dreamt of that big Indian wedding since you were a little girl (haven’t we all?) and now you need to get moving with executing the biggest day of your life (no pressure). The first thing you need to do after getting engaged is to set a date and this is vital. But setting a date isn’t sometimes as simple as it sounds. You need to think of lots of external factors as well as your Bhua, Chacha’s and not to mention Dada ji’s availability. I went through this very recently whilst I was trying to set a date so I know the feeling! So to help out my lovely brides I have put together the below tips which will help you when setting that all important date.
Summer vs. Winter?
This is as simple as it sounds, do you want a summer wedding or a winter wedding? The plus side to a summer wedding is that the weather will be OK – however as you know British weather is unpredictable so be prepared ladies! Yet a lot of couples do tend to opt for out of season weddings such as November and January. It’s all down to personal preference, if you literally can’t hack the cold then I would opt for a spring/summer wedding or if you are on a limited budget then I would opt for out of season winter wedding as you will probably be able to negotiate better deals with suppliers such as venues and caterers as they will normally provide a discount for out of season. Myself and my fiancé have opted for May, because we know the weather tends to be nice and I absolutely detest winter! Before you set your date it would be worth calling a few preferred venues and caterers that to see if they would offer you a lower rate for out of season, this will then make you decision easier when you are deciding the date for the big day.
To Bank Holiday or not?
This is another crucial factor. Do you want to get married over the bank holiday period? The plus side to this is that most of your guests will have the Monday off work if you are having a Sunday wedding. As with our Big fat Indian weddings we sure know they go on for at least 3 days, so you could start your celebrations on the Friday and then the big events over the weekend knowing that everyone has the Monday off to recover. If you are having a grand wedding which will last for days then you could opt for the Easter weekend where your guests will most probably have the Friday and the Monday off work. The downside to having a bank holiday wedding is that they are very very popular. Think about it, most brides will be thinking the same as you, so if you want a bank holiday wedding, I would recommend you start the planning and preparation as early as possible. I got engaged in January and I started my wedding prep in February, meaning I had over 15 months to prep but still most of my favourite make-up artists had been booked up. Us Asian Brides are becoming more and more savvy so start early!
For 2015 the below bank holidays are available:
|1 January||Thursday||New Year’s Day|
|3 April||Friday||Good Friday|
|6 April||Monday||Easter Monday|
|4 May||Monday||Early May bank holiday|
|25 May||Monday||Spring bank holiday|
|31 August||Monday||Summer bank holiday|
|25 December||Friday||Christmas Day|
|28 December||Monday||Boxing Day (substitute day)|
Availability of overseas relatives
If like me you and have a lot of overseas relatives attending the wedding, then it might be an idea to take their availability into consideration. I was lucky with my relatives from Canada because they said they will be there no matter what, hence I didn’t really need to think about their plans. But if you are having a lot of important guests coming from overseas it may be best to check with them as well because you wouldn’t want to be disappointed. Also if you have a lot of young family or cousins think about the exam period as you wouldn’t want them to miss your wedding because of an exam! And remember, the people that really want to be there for your big day will be there no matter what so don’t take everyone’s availability into consideration and only really your important guests from overseas and your family. Once the date is set get moving with booking those suppliers!
Until next time…