Happy December Desi Brides! So today on the blog I will be sharing and guiding you through the top ten Asian wedding planning mistakes and how to avoid them.
But firstly can you believe its two weeks before Christmas! Where has the year gone? Firstly I want to start this blog post with a huge heart felt thank you to all of my readers and brides – past, present and future. 2016 has been a fantastic year for Desi Bride Dreams and I cannot wait to share what I have in store for you in 2017!
So when I say top ten Asian wedding planning mistakes, its really important not to make these mistakes in the first place. Its so easy to get carried away with the Asian wedding planning side of things but its equally important that you think rationally before making big decisions for your dream day. If you feel as if you may have made a mistake with any of the below then don’t panic but instead try and rectify the situation as soon as you possibly can.
Under Estimation Of Guest Numbers
Before you get carried away with booking your dream wedding venue and start creating your beautiful save the dates you really need to think and plan the guest list. The worst thing you could do is underestimate your guest numbers and then place a non refundable deposit on your venue, only to realise later down the line that your guest list has exceeded the venue capacity. The first step is to ensure that both your family and the groom’s family have an accurate number of guests estimated and that it doesn’t exceed this. Therefore its important that you keep communication open to avoid having a issue with guest numbers further down the Asian wedding planning process.
Once you have an accurate number of guests from both sides you need to plan wisely to accommodate for those all important guest numbers. Its so easy to get carried away when you are viewing dreamy venues but you always need to be thinking about the requirements of your Asian wedding. For example can the venues you are viewing or thinking about booking accommodate for your guest numbers? Have you allowed for a dance floor space alongside the guest numbers? Or even if you allowed to bring in your own preferred outside caterers. These are all questions that need to be carefully considered before you decide to book your dream Asian wedding venue.
Not Booking Wedding Trials
I see this time and time again. Asian brides will trust the images they see online of the makeup artists work only to be disappointed on their big day because they didn’t go for a makeup trial. Don’t get me wrong even the best makeup artist can create the most stunning looks on a Asian bride but that makeup artist may not be the right makeup artist for you. I always encourage all Asian brides to go for makeup trials to get a true idea of the makeup artists work, technique and what they are capable of achieving for you. The more established makeup artists get booked up months if not years in advance so ensure that you book your trial well in advance.
Booking Suppliers Without Full Research
This is another mistake I see time and time again. So many Asian couples get pressurised into booking suppliers that perhaps they have previously used before for a family wedding or they have been recommended by the venue or other wedding suppliers. I had a very similar scenario earlier this year when one of my brides had booked a photographer that was the groom’s family friend and they ended up hating the images captured on their big day! Seriously please don’t do this and booking suppliers that have been previously used by family and friends should not be the sole reason why you book them. Some suppliers and venues may even be recommending other wedding suppliers because they will get commission if you book with them. Don’t get me wrong, recommendations can be great however I always consider recommendations carefully. It’s also really important to look at facebook reviews, social media channels etc before booking a supplier. Do your due diligence before committing this Asian wedding planning mistake!
Not Hiring a Asian Wedding Coordinator
So many couples spend so much time and effort planning their wedding and it’s so disheartening to see it fall flat on the day of the wedding. Having a Asian wedding day coordinator ensures that you have the best chance possible of your wedding day running smoothly. Here at Desi Bride Dreams we spend a lot of time with you before the wedding getting to know your day inside out so we can execute it seamlessly on the big day. When you hire a Asian wedding coordinator you know that on your big day there is someone there to manage not only your big day but the suppliers and any issues that may arise. Having a Asian wedding coordinator ensures you never feel an ounce of overwhelm and you and your family can be stress free on the big day. You can find more info about my Asian wedding planning and Asian wedding coordinator package over at www.desibridedreamsplanning.co.uk/coordination
Panic Supplier Booking
I am a great advocate of booking suppliers in plenty of time until the big day especially if you are getting married in July or August which is peak season for Asian weddings however its vital that you don’t panic book! It is true that all of the high quality and reputable suppliers do get booked up months and sometimes years in advance but this shouldn’t be the reason to panic book. Ensure that you take the time to research at least 3-4 suppliers for each Asian wedding planning category and then I would compare portfolios, costs as well as facebook reviews. If you book Asian wedding suppliers through this logical process then you are ensuring that the dream team you are selecting for your big day is in line with your wedding vision, wedding aesthetics and of course budget.
Not Hiring a Asian Wedding Planner
A Asian wedding planner? Something completely unheard of a few years ago but a Asia wedding planner is a necessity for any Asian bride wanting anything but a simple wedding .I often find that couples are normally time poor and simply don’t have the patience or the time to plan a Asian wedding as it has so many complexities and moving parts, and they end up making the wrong decisions. Investing in the right Asian wedding planner will ensure that not only allow you enjoy your Asian wedding planning process but also get the best value for money from suppliers. You can find out more about our Asian wedding planner package over at www.desibridedreamsplanning.co.uk
Trying To Please Everyone
We are all guilty of this – including myself when I was planning my own wedding but its really important to understand the concept that you can’t actually please everyone and that perfection doesn’t exist – especially when it comes to our Asian culture. If you want your guest list reduced or want a destination wedding just do it! As much as we of course want all our family and friends to have a fantastic time at the wedding and the pre wedding events its really important not to lose sight of why you are actually getting married. It’s because you love someone and you want to spend the rest of your life with them. Of course I’m not encouraging hideous selfishness but I am urging you to ensure that you get the Asian wedding that you want not a wedding which your family wants you to have.
Going For The Best Deal
This is a SERIOUS Asian wedding planning mistake. I see so many Asian brides opting to book suppliers off the back of a “good deal” but often what I find is that Asian wedding suppliers should rather be judged on their quality of work, customer service and their talent and not their cost. Of course cost is important but that shouldn’t be your only deciding factor and sometimes I have seen couples opt for suppliers over price only to have a complete nightmare down the line and not being pleased with the final product. It’s really true when they say “You get what you pay for”.
Doing It All Yourself
All Asian brides want to have control over their Asian wedding planning process – of course they do but there is doing it yourself and there is overdoing it. Asian wedding planning is such a beautiful but complex journey so you need to ensure that you aren’t doing it all yourself all of the time, and you definitely need to delegate. Whether this is giving the smaller touches to other family members such as brothers and sisters or letting the groom help with the research, this will ensure you don’t get wedding burnout!
Not Being Organised
When it comes to planning your beautiful celebration it is absolutely vital that you are organised. I see so many couples leaving things to the last minute which means they either make bad choices and this ultimately makes them feel stressed in the months and weeks leading up to the wedding. As soon as you start your wedding planning process compile a timeline of when everything needs to be booked and stick to it, this will ensure that you can actually enjoy the last few weeks without being stressed.
Are you feeling stressed with your Asian wedding planning process? Or would you like assistance with specific area of your Asian wedding planning? I would love to hear from you! Please drop us an email on firstname.lastname@example.org or call 07939082844.
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Images from Joanne Withers Photography
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